Jack of All Cheats The Guide to Cheating and Counter Cheating Last Updated: Thursday, May 1, 2008. 9:36 pm As the title suggests, this site will help you cheat and also help you catch people cheating on you in a relationship. There will also be discussions on how to infidelity-proof your relationship and how to recover from being cheated on. I wanted to make my opening statement more poetic, more creative, or sound more abstract and mystical like someone unlocking some great method to transmute lead into gold, but I do not believe this topic is that complicated nor does it need to be obscured. It simply fascinates me and I have enough experience on all ends of the spectrum to fill hundreds of blog posts. Well, at least I sure hope I do for your benefit and mine.
Anyone who lives in our world today need only look to the media, the lives of their friends, or their own lives to see that cheating in a relationship is about as common as getting into a relationship in the first place.
You can find the stats almost anywhere on the frequency of cheating, but there are two glaring statistics that ultimately led me to plan this website out in my mind.
Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. (Atwood & Schwartz, 2002 - Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy)
90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong. (http://pewsocialtrends.org/pubs/307/a-barometer-of-modern-morals)
When I read those two statistics, two things dawned on me. First, I was instantly reminded of a personal saying of mine: the world is a cruel place, but the sadness comes from not adjusting. If almost all of us believe that adultery is wrong, but more than half us are doing it, then we are basically feeling hurt about something that is going to happen to us. I guess that doesn't really make anyone feel better anymore than saying It's ridiculous to feel sad about someone close dying because you know It's going to happen.
The thought that followed next was not an instant revelation. I realized that given the inherent secrecy of cheating, the first set of numbers is probably a lot higher. That does not even factor in people who are committed but not married. I could not find any stats for unmarried couples, but I suspect it’s about the same.
Before I actually explain why I made this site, let me put a more ominous twist on those statistics. If half of the population cheats, and it takes two people to be in a relationship, then statistically speaking, if you are in a relationship you are either cheating or being cheated on. Most times it’s both.
This site seeks to be a synthesis of light and dark. If cheating is going to happen anyway, and society refuses to adjust to it, the sadness can be alleviated by either becoming very good at what you do so you do not hurt someone you may care about, or becoming very good uncovering even the craftiest of cheaters before they get the chance to hurt you.
If people view the circumstance of infidelity as an enemy to their peace of mind, emotions, and security, then let’s learn from this enemy. I envision a world where people take a new stance on how we approach relationships. That is the adjustment I would like to see take place so that we are longer saddened by failed relationships and the feeling that we've been betrayed when, in reality, as the numbers suggest, it's going to happen anyway.
If we are more proficient at catching cheaters and getting away with cheating, then maybe the world will be a happier place since either the illusion of perfect love is upheld or a new approach to relationships that does not end with people being hurt will be forced to emerge. Either way, the choice is up to you as to how you use this knowledge, my experience and observations. Remember, the enemy is your teacher, but the teacher should never be your enemy.
